A word of advice to young men: If you have children and are married, stay married until the last child is 18 years old. Refuse to sign divorce proceedings if you must. If you have children and are not married either by divorce or, were never married… pray every single day… you and your reputation are in peril, it’s only a matter of time.
If you have no children, and can’t see children in your future, get a vasectomy now. If your aren’t sure yet if you should have children, get a vasectomy now. The want of having a child to call your own is far, far less painful than dealing with the offices of the friends of the courts in this country.
They are a perverted, inept, and criminally negligent network of evil. I’ve never talked to a single person (male or, female) that has had an enjoyable and beneficial experience with an agent or officer of the friend of the court. Lawyers aren’t entirely to blame, yet their wide-spread proliferation has created much of this dynamic. Courts and judges try to act within the best interest of all parties (most of the time) but, are forced to operate within the constraints of the same horrible system.
Oh, think it can’t happen to you? It can.
Think it won’t happen to you? It will.
Think you can handle it? You can’t.
Believe me when I tell you, young male reader, that I and my many friends will show you our scars, show you our reams of paper work, show you callous former spouses, and finally show you your future… if you fail in heeding this simple piece of advice.
Remember, every father is a potential deadbeat. If you aren’t a father, then you can’t be a deadbeat.